tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219158927639144653.post4146300249140092692..comments2023-04-28T01:34:32.911-07:00Comments on Beginning To Endo...: Not a Joyful ChristmasUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219158927639144653.post-40009331677176781112013-01-03T09:26:48.602-08:002013-01-03T09:26:48.602-08:00Oh my! I don't mean to sound happy about your ...Oh my! I don't mean to sound happy about your turmoil but I am relieved to know I'm not the only one feeling this way. I had a family member on my husband's side--much older than us (who I found tolerable prior to all this), tell us we should just enjoy being married for awhile and not worry about kids at this point. A few months later during my 1st round of Clomid I came to find out she was also taking Clomid. I thought to myself she will never get pregnant before me....she's about 15 years older than me. Wouldn't you know it 2 months later the witch ended up calling ecstatic that she was pregnant. I just tried to avoid her throughout the pregnancy but being family in a smaller town it wasn't possible. EVERY friggin time she came around she would strike up a conversation with someone in front of me about her pregnancy and made a comment about "how it was so hard because it took them about 3 months to get pregnant and she just doesn't know how people who try for years can bear it." Now that she's had the baby it's been just as bad....every time we end up around her she has to rub salt a little deeper into all my wounds. For the sake of making life easy for my husband I have tried my best to tolerate her but I'm to the point now that I have almost a full blown mental break down every time I know I'm going to have to be around her. I have nothing against the baby...would love to get to be around her, but not with her evil witch of a mother around. I also have a blog but haven't posted this story yet...maybe one day I will but I felt so relieved to hear that I'm not just crazy and I'm not the only one that feels this way. Your story has been the blessing of my day. Thank you!! I hope that your in-laws will open their eyes to your pain and become more sensitive about the issue because I know from experience that this puts tremendous stress on you and your marriage. <br />www.mrsinfertilemyrtlern.blogspot.com Infertile Myrtle, RNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05626666779118506750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219158927639144653.post-68579069135629580862012-12-30T19:28:35.750-08:002012-12-30T19:28:35.750-08:00I'm so sorry you feel forgotten. I feel the sa...I'm so sorry you feel forgotten. I feel the same way regarding a similar issue. I agree with how you can believe someone doesn't purposely do things to hurt you, but to me, I'm hurt when someone doesn't seem to put forth the effort to make sure they don't hurt me. My MIL knows what's going on with us but talks to me about our nephew (her first grandchild) like he's the joy in my world and it hurts. I can't imagine what that would feel like if we'd had a miscarriage. My heart goes out to you and your husband. Devon (@dmb07)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219158927639144653.post-35853303619476939012012-12-24T23:53:59.831-08:002012-12-24T23:53:59.831-08:00I am so sorry that you are forced to deal with thi...I am so sorry that you are forced to deal with this pain! You are not in the wrong! Your in-laws should be more understanding of you and your husbands struggles and feelings. Your babies in heaven are not forgotten though - they are forever in your heart. I am also sorry you are slowly losing the Christmas spirit, but I understand why. You have had an emotional journey. I hope that u are treated with the utmost respect this Christmas ans pray that you will have your own little blessing next holiday season. Hugs and God bless you!<br /><br />Your endo sister, Heather Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06126216998611259508noreply@blogger.com